Are You Speaking With Strength Or Weakness?
Mean what you say to gain the greatest leverage.
Often, we fall into the trap of saying what we don’t mean to get what we wanted. This seemly harmless way of life usually seems to be the way to strive in the world and there are people who accept this as the only way for survival. Fortunately, it may not be the case.
The basic structure that makes up the speech may be just the order of tonality. In other words, a word is simply made of different tones pronounced in a specific order, which then becomes a speech when a string of words are pronounced in a specific order. When we speak, there are numerous factors affecting the tones of the words that we used, which in turn affect our speech. The strongest influence is most probably the emotions that we have during the speech.
Even though the words may be understood when spoken in slightly different tones, these slight difference can sometimes change the meaning of the words entirely; just as the sound of saying ‘I am happy’ when we are happy is distinctively different as to we say it when we are sad. As we can hear, if we are feeling depressed during the speech, the speech will end up making the listeners depressed too. Similarly, if we are energetic during the speech, the listeners will end up feeling energetic too. As a hypothesis, the listeners may just be listening to the emotions hidden behind the speech instead of the point of the speech.
Although the emotions may have been detected by the listener, it is not often that it is taken into consideration during the communication. As most part of the modern society is build upon structure and logic, in my opinion, most of us have been trained to process information in a structured and logical fashion, which sometimes make us ignore the truth behind the facade of the speech. Resulting in us taking speeches at face value which results in a miscommunication. Even if that may be the case, it doesn’t mean that we should accept this seemly inevitable defeat as there can be detrimental results on us.
Every time a speech made that is result-focused without the truthfulness of the orator, the speech becomes tasteless and, sometimes, nauseating. At the same time, for each of the speech made, the orator is training himself/herself to pull himself/herself further away from feeling and understanding his/her emotions. As a result, the fundamental aspect of a human is being drawn out of the orator. In other words, the orator becomes a robot.
Another seemly ridiculous vice for losing touch with the emotions, when making the speech, that may occur is the appearance of the obvious weakness of the speech. Similar to shooting an arrow against the wind, speaking against what we are feeling weakens the execution of the speech and, sometimes, makes the speech empty.
Therefore, as to why ‘honesty may be the best policy’, the reasons are simply the opposites of the two points which are mentioned. When the orator speaks as he/she meant, the orator accepts and aligns with what he/she feels. And then, the orator becomes authentic and relaxed as there is no need to go against how he/she is feeling. Also, the speech naturally becomes backed with the empowerment of emotions, hence, the point of speech will be expressed truthfully in clarity.
So, as we all know communication is one the important aspects of our lives that we can’t do without as most of the tools needed for survival may need to be attained through communication with people. However, in speaking with the negligence of our emotions, it can result in seemly innocent, but, dire consequences. While, at the same time, by the unspoken natural law, speaking in accordance to what we mean may be accompanied by the strongest leverage that we never knew.
