Our Body Doesn’t Determine Our Maturity

How do we define how mature we are?

What Is Maturity?

Maturity can be a subjective notion.
Yet, we, as humans, like to conceptualize ideas into a quantifiable form for various purposes.
As we know, how we define an adult is by counting the number of years that one has been alive for and for not having lived that number of years we define one as a child.
This measurement of the age of the biological body to determine one’s maturity seems to be on the bias end.
Even though the maturity of the biological body has a certain influence on the maturity of the psychology, a 21 years old may have the chance of acting like a 13 years old or a 40 years old based solely on their experiences and psychological maturity.
As when, if a 13 years old can handle an emergency situation better than a 40 years old, are we able to state that the 13 years old is more mature than the 40 years old?

Therefore, in my opinion, the psychological of one should be included with the biological body to come up with an accurate measurement of maturity instead of solely relying on the age of the body.

Taking Away Enjoyment Doesn’t Mean Maturity

As of this day and age, where information can easily be transferred from one end of the world to another, a child can easily gain the same set of knowledge as an adult.
However, what a person, be it a child or adult, may not be able to compare to other adults or children may only be the experiences that he/she has been through as each experience of each individual is unique.

Upon close observation, we may find that the behavior of a child feels more lively as compared to that of an adult.
Commonly, adults seem to lack the ability to enjoy the joy of life as much as compared to a child.
This may be caused by multiple factors.

One of which is that the adult may experience numerous discouragement from enjoying simple pleasures of life.
For an instance; John, an adult who is raised by a family where meals have to be eaten in a specific way, is discouraged from the enjoyment of having meals in his adulthood as he always feels restricted during mealtime.
However, when he was a child, he may have enjoyed the time having the meals in his own ways until the family sets the restriction.
Hence, he continued to deprive himself of a form of enjoyment even after he becomes an adult.

Another of which may be the need to adapt to the external environment which changes a lively child into a monotone adult.
In the working world, one is often being confined to act in a certain way, speak in a certain way, and dress in a certain way.
To act as a machine while being a human every day, unless it is for entertainment purposes, it is definitely insulting to anyone.
Does anyone enjoy insulting himself or herself every single day?

A Child May Know About Life Than An Adult

Often, when looking at how carefree a child is, it can trigger some emotions within an adult; it may be feeling nostalgic, feeling sad, and hoping to go back to childhood or feeling happy from seeing the child enjoying himself/herself.
These emotions may be tagged with certain meanings.

For example; feeling sad may mean that the life that an adult is living is not the way he/she wanted. With the upset, the natural thirst for life has been lost. Now, the adult needs stimulation from the external world to keep himself/herself alive. Thus, life has become unauthentic to him/her.
Hence, the sadness.

If we observe carefully, most children enjoy the moment that they have to the fullest. They do not worry about the future or be bogged down by the past.
All they look forward to is the fun that they can have at that moment.
Which is similar to the saying “Live in the moment.”.
At this point, the children display this wonderful trait that most adults wouldn’t have kept after they become adults.
This may also hint that the children are living to gain the maximum amount of experience of what this existence can give.

Centering & Maturing

Instead of staying centered at the present, most adults are stuck in the past and future.
Thus not aware enough to know how to act according to the present situations.

For instance; during an incident when a train with windows & doors closed breaks down with passengers on board, a person felt difficulty breathing.
Not many of the people on board will be aware of what are the possible steps to help the person.
The first thing that should come to mind is that the person needs oxygen to breathe or air to breathe which means to give the space or open the doors or windows for air to flow in.
If not, the person may be having an anxiety attack and may need medicine or someone to calm the person down.
Not being centered makes us unaware of what is happening in the situation, thus, not being able to carry proper actions according to the situation.

This ability to handle situations may be considered as having emotional stability due to being able to react to times of uncertainty which may be seen as a form of maturity.
This may also be why people with this ability are naturally considered more attractive to others.
This ability may just be solely about being centered, which in turn allows calmness in any situation and, thus, able comes out with a solution that may come from previous experiences based on the situation observed.

Hence, being centered may bring us closer to being more mature as a person than being stuck in the past and future.
Also, a child may have the possibility of being more mature than an adult.

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