Stop Trying To Validate Your Happiness With Struggles For Achievements

You can be happy without struggles and proofs.

All of us want success. All of us want happiness. Usually, unnoticed, success and happiness are inter-related. Both are related because being successful is about attaining a state of happiness. Commonly, it is in the perception that success will bring happiness that we pursue our idea of success. Ironically, the pursuit eventually becomes the root of our unhappiness.

In the belief that success comes with a hard price, the idea of attaining happiness unintentionally becomes hard work. At the same time, the demotivation due to the undesirability of hard work lengthens the struggles on the mental level. Even before embarking on the journey for success, the mentality has been fixed upon definite difficulties and struggles.

Unfortunately or not, due to the result of long term practice upon the belief, any success that comes easy becomes a suspect of something sinister. Incidentally, when facing something unfamiliar, being alert is important while being a skeptic is natural. However, to block our success due to a belief is much unjustified.

Nevertheless, we often feel safer and more secure with our practiced way of thinking than new ideas that come seemingly out of nowhere. In other words, the way that we think is similar to the way that we behave; when we are physically unbalanced, we tend to cling onto physical objects; when we are mentally unbalanced, we tend to cling onto known beliefs and ideas.

Therefore, when happiness comes easy for us, with the unfamiliarity potentially throwing our mental state slightly off-balance, we will do our best to remain in balance by reasoning the happiness with our beliefs. In other words, if it doesn’t come with a weighted price, our insecurities may kick in to carry out the struggle to feel worthy of happiness that is seeming free.

However, all the insecurities are simply caused by habitual thought patterns. Hence, like changing any habits, with disciplined practice, our old ways of thinking can be replaced with beneficial ones. As such, even if our well-deserved fruits of labor come with ease, we deserve to enjoy them guiltlessly. At the same time, we need not the feeling of restlessness to validate it through meaningless struggles. After all, the best thing, happiness, should be available price-tagged free.